Is it ok for me to read BL?

Ok I have a genuine question, as someone who is bisexual and gender-fluid as In I see myself as he/she/they meaning I see myself as a woman and man (and in between or sometimes none) is it fetishizing for me to read BL? I also read GL but no one ever talks about it so but anyway I’m genuinely confused because people say it’s fetishizing gay men to like yaoi as a straight woman, but as someone who is a woman and a man is it wrong?(when I say BL I mean the whole category not just yaoi)