am i aro/ace or were they just bad?

before yall say, this is a borderline porn website and why the fuck am i asking this here- i know and i dont have anyone to share about this so bare with me.

made out with a guy. got felt up and all. didnt get turned on rather he was the only who was rearing to go. and again, got into a rs but that lasted only 2 weeks because i didnt feel it (great guy though). these were only two examples but happens multiple times. i just lose interest? or like the motivation to maintain it? (sounds like huge red flag thing but i dont know im just so mad at myself because i feel like somethings really wrong with how my brain works) and no i dont think im a lesbian.