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How do i become a better person?
I am actually so disgusted of myself, i genuinely wanna be a better person. I've tried so hard but i keep circling back to the same self centered bitch ☹ I js wish i could js not give a fuck abt others so much that it feels like my heart is a bomb that'll blow up hurting everyone even if it means I'll be hurting myself the most, i keep wanting to be appreciated for what i put my effort into, i keep thinking only of what I've done in a group setting and undermining what others have contributed, i keep getting jealous of everyone and i always end up making them think they're not all that, when THEY ARE. I know that i should learn to appreciate myself and what i have more but what do i do about this craving to make myself be better than everyone else? And tbh im not even all that bad, i get good grades, have a good amount of extracurriculars, enough skill in what i do to be considered better than average, but i still keep wanting what others have. I rlly wish i can stop this bullshit im doing. Are these feelings of mine that i think of as complex actually js a facade for childish feelings to comfort this demon in me or are my feelings actually as valid as i hope they are
Some of your feeling are probs valid cuz ppl are toxic.
my advice is get to watching character building shows like MLP(the old show), WINX, BARBIE MOVIES, MONSTER HIGH ETC ETC
old girls media is lowkey what made me the person I am
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just that thought “i want to become a better person” itself makes you a better person. you are self-aware and are willing to improve. thats all. i’d say try journaling, it helped me a ton. 1 reply
May I offer a perspective I've learned about wanting to be better than everyone else?
I think a lot of us grow up with the mindset that we need to be special. That we are special. Maybe it's because we have a talent for X. Maybe it's because we look like Y. Maybe because A,B,C.
But why do we want to be special? Smarter? Prettier? Nicer?
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I agree with the person that said some of your feelings are probably valid. Media also contributed to my life views. So watching heartwarming shows help. I was also taught empathy.
I’ve always been a kind person but sometimes I fumble. When I was like 18 or 19, a man had approached me asking to buy him food. I was so surprised I apologized and ...... reply
You don’t need to be perfect nobody is perfect we all compare and mess up sometimes being better simply means being little kinder with yourself and others. Feeling jealousy is human the fact that you’re even worrying about this means you alredy growing
So try focus on gratitude celebrate others when you can and forgive yourself when you sli...... reply
Hey, so you're not entirely an asshole if you do actually appreciate their efforts and try to self-reflect. I think honestly, what you can do right now is tell others that you appreciate their work and also I'm aware that you're struggling about self-appreciation but whenever you're feeling like that, tell yourself "This is enough, I did my best." ...... reply
:Warning this is long: and the spacing got f’ed.
I’m going to echo others by re-confirming that self awareness is always the first step. Self reflection is not something everyone can do.
Tbh, and not to downplay your very real, very valid feelings but this fluctuating of thoughts and emotions sounds like hormones.
Meaning that these extremes ...... reply
I think these feelings are all valid. People feel the same, even I have felt like this at one point. I think the first step is to be conscious about it and acknowledge it, which is what you're already doing! You're making great progress :) The next thing is to figure out strategies to help become more confident in yourself, and feel ok without need...... reply
The first step to changing, is admitting that something is wrong with you. Your self awareness already proves you've accomplished that. To start, saying you want to become a better person is to vague. Try to think about what exactly about yourself you want to change. And if there are multiple things focus on one at a time. Think about what you'll d...... reply
