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advise to high schooler
I would really appreciate any advice or guidance from anyone. I know this might not be the best place to ask, but I’m feeling pretty desperate and don’t know where else to turn.
I’m a high school student graduating next year. I’ve been a decent student with mostly A’s and B’s not at the top of my class, but doing okay. As graduation approaches, I honestly don’t know what to do next. I’ve never had much guidance throughout high school since I’ll be the first in my family to graduate. I’ve been navigating this on my own, and there’s no one I can really talk to about these decisions. It feels like counselors mostly focus on seniors who are struggling or people who are barely passing, and I don’t feel like I fit into that group. I don’t want to disappoint my parents, who work so hard for me. Their dream has always been for me to get a good job in healthcare. I’m currently in a dual enrollment program working toward my CNA license because my dream has been to become a registered nurse. Throughout high school, I’ve been told I’m a good student, but now I realize I’m not as good as some of my classmates. Many of the other students seem so put together, with amazing grades and clear goals, while I’m just trying to maintain a 3.3 GPA and focus on graduating. I still enjoy working with patients and try my best, but I’m starting to wonder if nursing is really the right path for me. I don’t think I’ll get into a top college, so I’m considering applying to community colleges and working my way up from there. That wasn’t always my plan I wanted to attend a decent university but I don’t think many will accept me. I feel like the problem might be me, not money since it never been the issue thanks to my parents hard work. I don’t want to let my parents or anyone who supports me down, but I also don’t want to regret my decisions later. I’m not in a position to choose any major I want because my parents have sacrificed a lot for me to get a degree and a stable, well paying job. I’ve looked into other career options, but I don’t know how to create a plan or make a career change.
"I’m not in a position to choose any major I want because my parents have sacrificed a lot for me to get a degree and a stable, well paying job." I want you to realise that you ARE. This is your future life we're talking about, you can still be grateful and appreciate your parents for their hard work while also going to a major you want. Every ma...... 1 reply
honestly grades are only important for getting into schools but when you graduate and work in the real world, who you are, how you treat people, and how you go about your work is more important.
your plan of going to community college if other colleges don't work out sounds solid, plus you'll save money for when you want to transfer. and you'll h...... 1 reply
Hi! I understand what you are going though :D I also struggled to find a path that satisfied my parents and that would make me happy! I actually went to med school and ended up hating it! I only chose it to make my father happy… After discussing with him, he told me it saddened him that I put myself through that for him and that it was my life. H...... 1 reply
I get this. I went to a technical school and got a degree there, worked online for my psychology degree and sociology. They were things that I didn't think of for myself, but life eventually led me there. reply
i dont know how college in your country works so im just gonna give you a more general advice.
as someone who used to look like they "have it together" in highschool and befriended many similar person, trust me we dont. everyone is as unsure as the next person. we just dont show it. only a small percentage actually KNOW what they want to do. dont ...... reply
Starters; it’s okay to not have a plan in mind graduating high school. Heck myself included I didn’t have a good grasp on what I wanted to do entering college and graduating college.
What I learned best for me was to try to experience everything and anything. I found that my path to healthcare to be convoluted, and wasn’t set in stone. I so...... reply
Maybe talk to your parents about your growing concerns about your career path and get a compromise. Is there a particular reason why your parents want healthcare specifically? Is it the pay? The workload? The reputation? Get an understanding and maybe you can offer alternatives that fit your interests more but still meet their standards.
As someo...... 1 reply
Background - I was in a similar situation to you, parents pushed me to go into healthcare since I was a child, I didn’t know what I wanted to do and it was overwhelming. I went to undergrad, grad school, and now I am a speech therapist.
If you are American, just because you go into school with one declared major (let’s say nursing for example...... reply
