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should people who don't love themselves get into a relationship?
I've recently had this conversation with my bsf and we have different opinions. I'll make them short.
hers was : There is no boundary in Love, they can enter a relationship if they want to. Not loving yourself doesn't imply that you can't love anyone.
while mine was that : I don't agree because the most important type of love is SELF-LOVE. Why would you shower someone with the love you can't even give to yourself?
I think neither of us was wrong and we just had different approaches, we didn't agree abt this cause I always ask her opinions.
Can you guys share your thoughts on this one too? I'd love to read them too cause everyone has different opinions, the way I interpreted mine could be wrong to others but I'd like to know
I was dating someone who didn’t love themselves and it was a really toxic relationship. From projecting their insecurities to putting me on a pedestal and not believing any of my comforting and affectionate words. It was bound to fall apart because if someone doesn’t love themself, it’s unfair to the person who loves them dearly because you c...... 1 reply
Lol no?????
My friend hates herself and only finds self worth through relationships and men.
Shes a magnet for toxic guys and has been cheated on in every single relationship including her current one. She told me "okay but she lives in England and I live an hour away, who's he gonna choose?"
People who hate themselves don't need a boyfriend, th...... reply
i’ve said this before, and i’ll say it again: NEVER EVER get into a relationship if you don’t love yourself first. you can’t give your partner the kind of love they deserve when you’re unable to give that love to yourself. insecurity is normal, BUT there’s a clear difference between having insecurities and genuinely hating yourself. i o...... reply
Me and my ex both have low self-esteem, imagine that.. our relationship turned very resentful near the end because of our need to overcompensate, and insecurity played a big part because we both felt the other could do better reply
I just hope that those who don’t love themselves who get into a relationship will be affected positively by others and to change their thoughts and love themselves rather than negatively impacting others to give them validation about themselves reply
From my experience, if I don't love myself enough to take care of myself, then I can't love another person enough to take care of them without turning myself into a burden. It's not fair for them to keep caring for me while I don't do it myself. Then the next best step is loving myself. From then on, I can care and love for all I want for others. reply
My answer to almost any question is "depends on the situation"
For this example I'd say it depends on the couple dynamic
If you are unable to love yourself, but you really love this person, and this person really loves you back- I think i is possible to grow self-love through them. Like- when they point out your qualities and praise you, you may ...... reply
No, I do agree with your opinion about loving someone else you have to love yourself. The thing is when you are in the lowest, you are the most vulnerable whether it be insecurities or etc. due to that sometimes you can drag your partner with you in your depressive thoughts. It's just not good.
Loving yourself is just needed, you are emotionally s...... reply
Even if you managed to love someone or get into a relationship, you'll feel immense insecurity and feel unworthy for that person, so you're like going back and forth and that shit really sucks because it's not healthy and sometimes you'll self-sabotage (not from a personal experience obviously heh) reply
