Does anyone else have irl friends who just randomly ghost them? Like I genuinely don't know what it is. Mine will slowly stop talking to me or start acting like they're tired of me. Even my bsf has started leaving me on seen lately.
I do communicate with them about it, but they always just say they're busy or that everything's fine... sooo I honestly don't know what it is.
Idk if I'm the problem, but I always make sure my friends are okay, and I try not to do too much or be overwhelming. I haven't even called anyone in a long time because I don't want to bother people.
Whenever I ask my friends if they want to call, they'll leave me on sent for hours. One of my friends will tell me she's busy, but then I'll see her hanging out with or calling other people after turning down my invitation. I don't expect anyone to be available all the time, but it does make me wonder if I'm doing something wrong. Does this happen to anyone else?
Is it called ghosting people? I don't know. I don't really reach out to my friends, I don't text them nor do I call them. I kinda don't have the time to talk to them or more like it's too much of an effort to talk them. I talk to them when I see them irl or they reached out to me first. My social battery is so dead, it's exclusively for myself and my family only.
Yeah, shit like that happens. Either they are really busy or they just don't want to spend time with you anymore. As harsh and easier it is to say, but it's time to find other people who'd reciprocate the same action you do with your friends. Like people outgrown each other.
If you're confrontational, you should ask your friend about their action towards you and speak out how you feel. Either they'll respect that and it turns out good. Or they'll just dismiss it, and that's when you know you should leave them alone.
I, personally, would just ignore that behavior and just confront them when they finally reach out. But sending hugs to you!
I ghost people all the time, but that's because I'm an emotional trainwreck that can't handle a friendship lasting more than a few months without becoming paranoid.
Basically, it's probably not you, or even if it is, it's unfairly labelled as being you. However, I will say never be afraid to bother people. Look at it this way, if someone really liked you, they'd be happy to spend time with you. That means that from the start they already liked/disliked you.
Whether or not you call them is not going to significantly harm their perception. If you call I don't once a week or whatever, if they dislike it, they probably already disliked you from the beginning, so might as well just call.
(it is really early in the morninh right now, I honestly have no clue if that makes sense)
Like, to add, even though I ghost people, I don't mind getting reached out to if it's someone I'm okay with.
The only people that I'm not okay with reaching out are the ones that I already didn't like---whether they reached out or not, even looking at them makes me want to ʕ ◦`꒳´◦ʔ
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Is it called ghosting people? I don't know. I don't really reach out to my friends, I don't text them nor do I call them. I kinda don't have the time to talk to them or more like it's too much of an effort to talk them. I talk to them when I see them irl or they reached out to me first. My social battery is so dead, it's exclusively for myself and my family only.
You’ll lose many friends along the way. That’s just how it is. If you know you ain’t the problem just accept that you’ve grown apart.
Yeah, shit like that happens. Either they are really busy or they just don't want to spend time with you anymore. As harsh and easier it is to say, but it's time to find other people who'd reciprocate the same action you do with your friends. Like people outgrown each other.
If you're confrontational, you should ask your friend about their action towards you and speak out how you feel. Either they'll respect that and it turns out good. Or they'll just dismiss it, and that's when you know you should leave them alone.
I, personally, would just ignore that behavior and just confront them when they finally reach out. But sending hugs to you!
I ghost people all the time, but that's because I'm an emotional trainwreck that can't handle a friendship lasting more than a few months without becoming paranoid.
Basically, it's probably not you, or even if it is, it's unfairly labelled as being you. However, I will say never be afraid to bother people. Look at it this way, if someone really liked you, they'd be happy to spend time with you. That means that from the start they already liked/disliked you.
Whether or not you call them is not going to significantly harm their perception. If you call I don't once a week or whatever, if they dislike it, they probably already disliked you from the beginning, so might as well just call.
(it is really early in the morninh right now, I honestly have no clue if that makes sense)
Like, to add, even though I ghost people, I don't mind getting reached out to if it's someone I'm okay with.
The only people that I'm not okay with reaching out are the ones that I already didn't like---whether they reached out or not, even looking at them makes me want to ʕ ◦`꒳´◦ʔ