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i lowkey want to start listening to them....

People who are in relationships, or have been, how seriously do you take advice from relationship advice from friends with no dating experience?

For context: (You can js ignore my story but and answer the main question btw) I have no actual dating or sexual experience myself, and it's not something I hide or am ashamed about. It's not that I'm uninterested, I've just never really pursued possible relationships for whatever reason, and I'm relatively content with just having my close friendships. I'm also def the honest 'say-it-how-it-is' type of friend, and while I try my best to be polite when it come to friends I know are sensitive, I rarely sugarcoat my words with close friends, and really prioritise open communication.

In the past, and present, I've had friends come to me to talk about their troubles in their relationship, or I hear about friends and their shirty partners, and I always do my best to advise them by seeing things in their perspectives. And while I'm not expecting them to always take my advice and act on it, I wonder how much they really take it to heart. Especially when they don't seem to act on my advice, only for them to break up with that partner a couple months later because said partner's behaviour had only gotten worse. OR when I advised that the couple go on a break, or at least communicate about how they feel, only for one of them to cheat on the other. (Both ppl in that couple were my friends)

i was wondering if you could ban people on this site and this account:

https://www.mangago.me/home/people/5242541/home/

pisses me off so much. i dont know if their ragebait or if they are being fr but its literally not funny and its so uncomfortable knowing that their account isnt banned. cherry on top their from israel so . the things they comment about and the lists they make are so disgusting and gross

before i say anything I will preface this by saying I genuinely don't gaf who you wanna date or don't wanna date personally, and I don't think anyone should be forced to date anyone else for any reason.
This isn't what I'm talking abt, you already know it's not what I'm talking about. This is purely about the logistics of using blanket terms, especially when being outspoken about your "type".

Okay here it goes
I feel like at a certain point we have to accept something is no longer a "dating preference" and just a stereotype you believe.

Sure, there can be perfectly normal reasons why someone may be less inclined to pursue relationships with certain members of minority groups, even if they otherwise fit their standards. I can believe that for the most part.

But the inherent denial, the line in the sand that you draw and openly point at, that's not the same. Fkn hell, historically gay communities have had "no fats or fems", and we never act (or at least i hope none of you act) like it was anything other than misogyny and a blunt idolisation of eurocentric male beauty standards. There's a reason we disavow that kind of expression now.

But then when we have people sitting on the internet, signaling about how they would never date this group or that group, trans people, bisexual people, whoever tf. We somehow feel the need to have a discussion about "well who knows why that person has this opinion".
As if what someone hitting post on something where they talk about how they would "never date" so and so, is doing anything other than pointing a finger at a whole array of individuals and saying "you are like this. i dont like that". Usually to a minority group, sometimes making their romantic distaste for said group their whole personality.

I simply do not believe anyone coming online making such blanket statements has a single bone on them that cares for the group they're talking about at the most basic human level. And im tired of pretending it's okay to spew blatant hatred whole hiding behind personal taste