ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh i really loved this manhwa and i love angst, but the past couple chapters have been kinda awful. i remember that i really liked the smut in this, unlike in most comics, bc it felt sensual and awkward and warm. this felt awful to read. like sex for the sake of proving something to themselves/each other, rather than sex for the sake of connection or curiosity or pleasure
saw the commenters with broken hearts and read it anyways, and now my heart, too, is broken. with just one dialogue bubble </3
im surprised at all the comments against the mc. the ml consistently pissed me off. he chose to hurt the mc deliberately, again and again. i found him unlikable for most of the series. his aunt told the mc everything--why did he have to hear it from her? ml would have never told him anything and just left him feeling unwanted. and the mc kissed the prosecutor when the things had been broken off, anyways. he didn't do anything wrong.
how are all these russians flying by unnoticed in south korea
i so desperately hope there's more. i love soft warm MCs doting on prickly love interests. lmk if you have any recs :')
omg how many angsty tops are there in korea?? i keep thinking he'll find a ghost's lover in the real world. but don't they have any other issues to haunt people over besides their sex life XD though i kinda get it with the political climate; if i don't find love, maybe i'll find a cute local bottom to haunt as well
aw this latest chapter (49) captured one of my anxieties: whether i'll still be able to legally marry whoever i love by the time i find them. i've often thought like niti; not sure that marriage means much to me (besides the joy of saying "wife"/spouse/etc), but thinking of politics & current events makes me feel like i should, for legal reasons (ie being able to visit if ill or injured, etc) and bc people have worked so hard for decades to make it a possibility
i wish others, or at least his lover or sister, could see the spirits. it's too sad and unsatisfying that he's the only one, and that they went through all that without anyone else seeing what was really happening.
i think every actor in a manhwa has a light fall on them at least once XD manhwa actors need to unionize. where's OSHA??
i was treated similarly-worse by my biological mother. also tried really hard to change myself, acting calm and mature so that i could be loved and have an anxious-avoidant attachment....but i didn't become a psychopathic rapist?? and when a friend or partner pointed something out to me, i reflected on it & how my traumatic childhood made me develop that trait, then tried to change? where's my "you have a pitiable backstory so every cruel thing you do can be excused" card XD really pmo when authors do this. feels like justification instead of explanation. we are more than our starting circumstances.
i don't think every person in this world has the kind of resilience you have. or other people have that survive these traumatic experiences and turn out to be loving and empathetic people. you can't even imagine how many traumatized people like him exist. he is not psychopathic, but he definitely has some antisocial traits. he is obviously extremely mentally ill and there are certain predispositions that lead people to develop these certain traits. your trauma COULD have made you like this. not every person is capable to self-reflect. people with a possible personality disorder (it wasn't mentioned, but hella obvious) that are on the extreme side of the spectrum DO NOT have this self-reflection. they don't even think that there is something wrong with them. part of it is also that even if they knew, they wouldn't want to change it or wouldn't have the necessary resources to change it. i'm really glad you turned out to be a reflected person that can take accountability though!!
also, with "personality disorder" i wasn't talking about you, i was talking about the ML. (just for clarification)
this also doesn't excuse the fact that he sa'd the MC. in NO way
but it is more likely to abuse someone when a person has no sense of remorse, no social and moral awareness and is completely self-absorbed. some people do not have the capability to feel what is wrong or right. they solely act on what they WANT. basically completely delusional
All that reflection, and yet you can’t fathom that not everyone responds to trauma the same way?
I’m not excusing his behavior, nor am I suggesting trauma made him a rapist. Plenty of people experience horrific trauma and never harm others. My point is that understanding how a person became who they are is not the same as justifying what they do.
The story is showing the psychological factors that shaped him, not asking readers to absolve him (at lease from what I’ve read on the raws so far). Human beings are complicated. Understanding a character’s motivations and development doesn’t mean endorsing their actions…
yeah ofc i know everyone responds differently, and it was being in a supportive environment afterwards and not having an underlying personality disorder that helped me turn out okay (for the most part)! i also actually don't mind psychopathic or toxic characters and can find them enjoyable to read, depending on how its presented. i see far more comics that use childhood trauma as a "get out of jail free" card. if this story doesn't try to push readers to forgive him and has the understanding/explaining without endorsing, i'd still continue to like it.
although i still personally would have been more down to read his backstory like 2 arcs ago. it's been 50+ chapters with very minimal character growth; at this point, i don't care as much why he is the way he is, i just want to see if/how he changes.
First, I’m sorry for what you’ve been through. You’re strong for making it this far, and I’m glad you were able to find a supportive environment.
I thought the same thing at first. I was convinced this story was going to use his trauma as a get-out-of-jail-free card, and I even dropped it for a while because of that. I eventually picked up the raws because I wanted to see how far the sob story would go, but to my surprise, it took it more seriously than I expected.
His obsession with the MC and his shitty behavior are called out. Not the rape part, which honestly I rarely see happen in stories anyway, and for narrative purposes I don’t even think the characters or author see it as such, which is a whole other conversation. What surprised me was that the story actually has him acknowledge his behavior and let the MC go so he can work on himself.
Hopefully the story keeps that same pace moving forward. We’ll have to wait and see.