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Anyway... He's my junior ... I'm 2 years older than him but like he's way taller ( well not the point but ok) .... So we're super friendly and he's kinda like a dog cute time always calling and talking to me... And then we got holiday and suddenly he texted love you ( which btw he have never said before) and even said it on phone call.... And he asked if I was not interested in dating or currently dating someone and i said I wasn't dating anyone until I get a job? Which would be like after 6 months and he also kinda now the timeline .... But I do like him and now he's hardly texted me... I mean it's still friendly but now he doesn't initiates the text unless he's drunk?? So am I cooked or was he just looking for a substitute for his one sided love ( he asked a girl out which btw has a bf before we became close)
gng, be a bad bitch and ignore it ay? js let it be, he should make a move if he truly wants to date you, and if not, u js make yourself busy on the job, its not like you'll lose anything so why bother, no? am I right lad or am I right lad?
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I might be wrong but I really think you shouldn't confess to him especially if he only texts you when drunk or has another person in mind. But if it's been a long time after his crush maybe??? Omfg I'm indecisive but tell us more let us see if he's a red flag (¬ ₃ ͡¬) 2 reply
Just keep your own timeline. If he is really interested he will come at you again after 6 months. If not, guy is just playing. Also, talk to him in person. Drunk texting is not the most reliable thing lol. But my advice would be to just do your own thing and not spend too much time thinking about it/him. There are more guys in this world and if thi...... reply
it seems like his feelings were not that deep or even genuine. it'll be proven true if he eventually stopped reaching out completely. i mean, he obviously has a habit of jumping to the next one after being turned down... you literally said he asked someone before you and then after you said you're not yet ready, he's now like fading, flickering lig...... reply
Bro what? I was okay with everything except the fact that at the end he asked someone else out? Bro that's bad he's shit you should go on focus on getting that job bbg you'll get someone far better than this manchild get the job you're working for them whatever you find the right decision do it then for now your main focus should be the Job reply
He sounds like he has dismissive avoidant attachment. He got too intimate and things started to get real, so he pulled away and shut down. Do yourself a favor and learn about attachment, it will change your life! It would have saved me years of heartbreak had I learned sooner. 1 reply
Speak in person and talk it out don’t hide anything say whatever that’s on your mind about this and tell him to be honest too tell him about this timeline reply
this is lwk reminding me of the situation of my friend and her now bf. she's also 2 yrs older than him and he used to talk to her and actually confessed to her and she was a bit taken aback. nevertheless, after a while she gave him a chance and now they're dating.
having said that, js bc it worked out for her don't mean it'll work out for you. idk...... reply
