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should people who don't love themselves get into a relationship?
I've recently had this conversation with my bsf and we have different opinions. I'll make them short.
hers was : There is no boundary in Love, they can enter a relationship if they want to. Not loving yourself doesn't imply that you can't love anyone.
while mine was that : I don't agree because the most important type of love is SELF-LOVE. Why would you shower someone with the love you can't even give to yourself?
I think neither of us was wrong and we just had different approaches, we didn't agree abt this cause I always ask her opinions.
Can you guys share your thoughts on this one too? I'd love to read them too cause everyone has different opinions, the way I interpreted mine could be wrong to others but I'd like to know
My father, who hated himself, married my mum, who loved herself enough and then he destroyed her mentally throughout their marriage by being an abusive shithead until the day he finally offed himself. Now she thinks of herself as deserving of less and lost literally all of the light from her eyes.
So yeah, definitely don't get into a relationship ...... 2 reply
nope. i hate myself and could never be in a relationship at least until im better. when u have such low self esteem, you’re obsessed with everyone else and keep comparing yourself to others. imagine getting in a relationship and always thinking ur partner is somehow gonna find someone better or cheat on u. that you’re not good enough etc…or w...... reply
Tbh, I don’t really LOVE the concept of loving yourself. The idea of love itself is abstract, so to limit yourself because of it just seems exaggerated. Even self-esteem can fluctuate depending on mood and other circumstances. People need expectations and boundaries for a successful relationship. You don’t necessarily need to ¨love yourself”...... 1 reply
It will be the most draining relationship you will ever be forced to have. The constant insecurity overdose and cheating accusations given will force some to fucking cheatif you wanna die why the fuck are you try a shoot yourself in you partners arms. “Killing two birds with one stone” ahh 1 reply
I think a key point people haven’t mentioned is that when you don’t love yourself, you don’t love the other person either, you’re seeking validation from them or are in a state of limerence.
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no, almost everyone has normalized the "s/he can fix me/I can fix ___" mindset. It's not your partner’s job to make you love yourself. In this economy, would you really date someone so miserable they can't even give themselves a tiny bit of love? no.
I wouldn't want to date a man who isn't secure with himself, do you exactly love me or are you j...... reply
This will based on own personal experience, as my answer is yes they can still love someone. I didnt really loved myself before.. until i meet someone and i dated them, i loved them very much.. yes, with ur point, why would you shower someone love you cant even give to urself? Honestly its much more easier to love someone than loving urself (to me ...... reply
That's a tough one. I do think ppl deserve love even if they're struggling mentally or physically. But having dated someone who was deeply insecure, I think it would only work if the insecure person was actively trying to get better. Even then, the partner has to be very mentally strong to not get hurt when their insecure partner has doubts and sli...... reply
No, while yes they can love someone but the relationship will be extremely unstable. This can end in insecurities and controlling, trust issues, abandoment issues and many more. I don't think people realise most of those issues stem from someone not loving theirself enough. Neither of you will end up mentally okay. reply
