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perceived as a loser
i got sexually harassed a bunch of times as a kid and teenagers which is probably normal for most women. it never got to penetration, just touches and sometimes trapping me in a corner so i can’t run.
i don’t know if im wrongly using that as an excuse but intimacy scares me now and i have had a boyfriend because everyone brings up sex at some point. i don’t even want to kiss or anything. the idea disgusts me. i don’t know if i’m being conservative or those experiences made me view sex as disgusting. i don’t know.
but anyways i’m turning 22 this year and everyone keeps asking about my boyfriend and i have none and it feels pathetic. it is pathetic.
Boyfriends are overrated. Dw op life as a single lady can be very fulfilling without those sorts of things if that's what you desire. People that think being single is pathetic are the ones who are truly pathetic.
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its absolutely crazy to me that we are living in a day and age where sexual harassment is ‘normal’ for most women. this should not be normal for anyone, especially kids and teens
you shouldnt need to have a reason to view sex as disgusting, everyone has different views on it, and nor should you need a reason to not have a boyfriend. it is absol...... reply
It is not pathetic at all, not only have you experienced trauma but you're also only 22, you have time! Although, that doesn't mean you ever need to be in a relationship no matter your age. Please don't feel as though you need romance/sex for a good life because it is seriously overrated in many ways. Focus on the things that truly make you happy i...... reply
OP, there are far, far more things you can do/be that are truly pathetic. It's just never liking or having sex. If that's terrifying--i am perfectly fine and happy. Believe me, I'm asexual. And you too, are asexual. It's called being sex repulsed due to trauma. reply
girl you're not pathetic and sexual harassment are NOT and should NOT be normal, even if sadly most women has experienced it. you have every right to feel disgusted. it's NOT an excuse. you were HARASSED for god's sake!
if it makes you feel any better i never had a boyfriend either and very rarely ever get close with a male, and i'm about to turn...... reply
honestly speaking, the real divas are women without boyfriends/husbands/male partner. having a bf in big 2026?!? it's like, sooooo old fashioned we need to leave this for the history books. women get more 4B NOW! T_T.
no but really, it's fine. in fact, it's better that u don't have a bf beCAUSE from my friend's experiences of having bfs, most boys...... reply
Um I'm 22 I'll be turning 23 this year but I haven't gone through what you went through but I've never even held hands with the opposite sex let alone a kiss and I don't think it's pathetic in fact I feel like I'm still figuring out what kind of person I want to be before i think of ever getting in a relationship right now I'm just chilling focusin...... reply
Oh dear... please don't feel pathetic about it... not having a man at 22 doesn't make you a failure. It's your life, not theirs! there are still so many things you can explore and enjoy, so you don't have to force yourself to live the way other people want you to. Just be yourself, okay? I promise it'll feel a lot lighter. no sex? that's okay! don'...... reply
Not pathetic. Do not take any blame and/or labeling yourself from horrible trauma you have experienced. Maybe find some counseling. You kinda know your issue and what you feel you are facing, you have awareness of something is a block now for you, so maybe it is time to just go talk to someone who can work this thru with you. This is something y...... reply
Everyone is different. Having a partner is not what defines your success. Focus on your future and your friendships. Society always places an emphasis on your relations with men because of the systems that are put into place. reply
