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I’m only 20 so maybe I’m just dumb af with my little kid brain according to some ppl, but bro. The amount of ppl going crazy over any difference in age is insane. Especially hyper focusing in the twenties. People are saying anyone below 25 is a child essentially. A common argument is the frontal lobe thing, but that was proven to be a myth. Most science (or what I’ve read at least) says at 18-20 people are basically physically and mentally adults. They lack experience and wisdom, yes, but nothing about them physically makes them different.
I agree that people roaming around only wanting super young people is gross and weird, or if they’re only attracted to somebody because of their age. But other than that, if you’re just chilling and like “oh yeah, I’m attracted to every age tbh. Idc about age, just if I feel physical or romantic attraction” I don’t think that’s wrong?? Because it’s just natural and organic.
Unless somebody is below 18, idgaf and I don’t think it’s morally wrong. Some people use the whole “if they could go lower they would” and while I do think there are people who would do that, I don’t think that’s the case for everybody?? I know to me, below 18 is morally AND legally wrong because research has shown that teenagers are…well excuse me, but….dumb af. Naive af. The HPG axis is dictating everything at that point bro
But, I understand trepidation around big age gaps, especially if someone is 18/19 or early twenties. I do understand. I can see why some think it’s weird or question it. But when it comes to barely an age gap, like, both are in their twenties or not even 6 years apart, the amount of people saying it’s predatory and disgusting is insane
“I’m 24, I have NO business being with someone 20.” Uhm…okay…why exactly?? Just because you think you’re SO mature compared to them??
“25 and 21 is a sus age gap. Why are they dating a 21 year old?” Maybe because 21 is only 4 years younger…and not really an age gap… maybe bc they both are actually pretty close in age? Maybe the older just likes them, whether that be for something casual or serious?? They can both drink for fucks sake (in America at least)
“22 and 18 makes me want to barf
I agree that people roaming around only wanting super young people is gross and weird, or if they’re only attracted to somebody because of their age. But other than that, if you’re just chilling and like “oh yeah, I’m attracted to every age tbh. Idc about age, just if I feel physical or romantic attraction” I don’t think that’s wrong?? Because it’s just natural and organic.
Unless somebody is below 18, idgaf and I don’t think it’s morally wrong. Some people use the whole “if they could go lower they would” and while I do think there are people who would do that, I don’t think that’s the case for everybody?? I know to me, below 18 is morally AND legally wrong because research has shown that teenagers are…well excuse me, but….dumb af. Naive af. The HPG axis is dictating everything at that point bro
But, I understand trepidation around big age gaps, especially if someone is 18/19 or early twenties. I do understand. I can see why some think it’s weird or question it. But when it comes to barely an age gap, like, both are in their twenties or not even 6 years apart, the amount of people saying it’s predatory and disgusting is insane
“I’m 24, I have NO business being with someone 20.” Uhm…okay…why exactly?? Just because you think you’re SO mature compared to them??
“25 and 21 is a sus age gap. Why are they dating a 21 year old?” Maybe because 21 is only 4 years younger…and not really an age gap… maybe bc they both are actually pretty close in age? Maybe the older just likes them, whether that be for something casual or serious?? They can both drink for fucks sake (in America at least)
“22 and 18 makes me want to barf
about become happy again
With all these ukes indebt which one has the likeliest chance of winning the Squid Game if they joined that instead? This question popped up in my head while I was having a shower thought now i need to know the answer
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I know so many people who treat mental illnesses like Pokemon. Why are you trying to speed-run diagnoses?
They're never lowkey about it either like fuckkkk why do you need to mention to me that you have depression and bpd every day? Take your medicine. Why do you have to tell me you're gonna stop taking it every day even though you're gonna end up taking it anyways? Why do you keep complaining about how you're so skinny and how I should force you to have meals?
I am not your therapist nor your caretaker.
I just can't stand these people. I also have depression due to trauma, ptsd, anxiety etc. but none of my "friends" know about it because not only do they apparently have every mental illness under the sun, but they also are so attention-seeking and narcissistic they can only ever talk about themselves.
Fuckk people piss me off.
They're never lowkey about it either like fuckkkk why do you need to mention to me that you have depression and bpd every day? Take your medicine. Why do you have to tell me you're gonna stop taking it every day even though you're gonna end up taking it anyways? Why do you keep complaining about how you're so skinny and how I should force you to have meals?
I am not your therapist nor your caretaker.
I just can't stand these people. I also have depression due to trauma, ptsd, anxiety etc. but none of my "friends" know about it because not only do they apparently have every mental illness under the sun, but they also are so attention-seeking and narcissistic they can only ever talk about themselves.
Fuckk people piss me off.
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ngl food is hard to hate, but if I had to pick it'd be like buns, not those yum yum lemme eat this thicc bun.
Dry, no seeds bread bun that I remember having to eat when I was in school cafeteria, tasting like just fucking dough with somehow along with that a cup of bitter boiled milk that probably was burnt. I shudder in PTSD from this day.
Dry, no seeds bread bun that I remember having to eat when I was in school cafeteria, tasting like just fucking dough with somehow along with that a cup of bitter boiled milk that probably was burnt. I shudder in PTSD from this day.
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Are you by chance specialized in something which others might think it's weird? Well I have a few and come on, I can't be only weird one here, right??
My secret talent is that I can twist my tounge 360 degree. (It might sound easy but try doing it and u won't be able to~)
Let me know yours as well (◡ ω ◡)
My secret talent is that I can twist my tounge 360 degree. (It might sound easy but try doing it and u won't be able to~)
Let me know yours as well (◡ ω ◡)
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like girls at my school are acting like their world ended because a senior rejected them....they try to cut their veins with the blade of a sharpener. One person brought a knife at school and tried to cut their veins. LIKE BRO if you wanna die go die at your house why you gotta do it at school and get expelled? and the reason is always because of a rejection.
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I WANT TO KILL STUPID GOD. i hate GOD. SATAN IŠ MY DAD. SATAN IŠ MORE POWERFUL THAN GOD, HE CAN LIFT EARTH WITH JUST HIS OINKY FINGER
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I’ve seen like 10 vids abt BL back to back and lately there have been more vids on that so I kinda wanna talk about fetishization in the BL space and have some questions.
So I’ve noticed a pattern. Lately, I’ve noticed more and more white queer especially white mlm (male luv male) speak out against it. They say that BL is harmful and that it normalizes fetishization towards gay/queer men. That women who read BL/identify as a Fujoshi are all weird and gross. ‘Straight Women who read hardcore smut constantly are 100% fetishizers.’
↳To that a certain degree I do agree that there is truth that with the prominence of BL I’m sure there has been a rise of fetishization which should be addressed and called out. But I also think that a lot of those points are kinda wrong. Women reading smut isn’t inherently wrong at all, it’s when they start to mix fiction into reality and start asking queer men uncomfortable questions regarding their sex life and sexuality unprovoked/out of nowhere. Or when they start pushing heteronormative stereotypes onto queer men. And to that I say we call those actions out bc frankly they’re weird and unnecessary but let’s not start hating on all women esp the ones who have done nothing but just read.
I also don’t think it’s that deep that some women refer to themselves as fujoshi. Just bc some fujoshis were known to be fetishizers doesn’t mean that every single one of them are as well. That’s just generalization. People love to use and create terms to describe themselves and their hobbies. “Otakus” “fudanshis” “fujoshis” “___ Stan’s” etc. imo, an issue is when we take a JP term and try to change the meaning to fit it western standards, that’s a bit odd to me.
now this might point might ruffle some feathers and so I’ll try to word this as nicely as I can:
BL is queer Asian media, 98% of the characters are Asian. So wouldn’t the fetishizers consuming BL target and stereotype queer Asian men??
I’m not saying that white queers haven’t faced fetishization bc of BL, I’m sure that they have and it sucks. But considering which race is used most in Bl’s, would they not be the first to get fetishized heavily?? With the rise of discourse about Bl, I’ve only ever seen white queers preach on this topic but I’ve never seen queer asian men talk on it. The ones that do speak up on it are kinda nonchalant abt it. I have a lot of Asian friends that are also queer and dont really seem to care about the Bl discourse as passionately as their white counterparts, so if anyone wants try and explain this phenomenon to me, I’d appreciate it greatly
So I’ve noticed a pattern. Lately, I’ve noticed more and more white queer especially white mlm (male luv male) speak out against it. They say that BL is harmful and that it normalizes fetishization towards gay/queer men. That women who read BL/identify as a Fujoshi are all weird and gross. ‘Straight Women who read hardcore smut constantly are 100% fetishizers.’
↳To that a certain degree I do agree that there is truth that with the prominence of BL I’m sure there has been a rise of fetishization which should be addressed and called out. But I also think that a lot of those points are kinda wrong. Women reading smut isn’t inherently wrong at all, it’s when they start to mix fiction into reality and start asking queer men uncomfortable questions regarding their sex life and sexuality unprovoked/out of nowhere. Or when they start pushing heteronormative stereotypes onto queer men. And to that I say we call those actions out bc frankly they’re weird and unnecessary but let’s not start hating on all women esp the ones who have done nothing but just read.
I also don’t think it’s that deep that some women refer to themselves as fujoshi. Just bc some fujoshis were known to be fetishizers doesn’t mean that every single one of them are as well. That’s just generalization. People love to use and create terms to describe themselves and their hobbies. “Otakus” “fudanshis” “fujoshis” “___ Stan’s” etc. imo, an issue is when we take a JP term and try to change the meaning to fit it western standards, that’s a bit odd to me.
now this might point might ruffle some feathers and so I’ll try to word this as nicely as I can:
BL is queer Asian media, 98% of the characters are Asian. So wouldn’t the fetishizers consuming BL target and stereotype queer Asian men??
I’m not saying that white queers haven’t faced fetishization bc of BL, I’m sure that they have and it sucks. But considering which race is used most in Bl’s, would they not be the first to get fetishized heavily?? With the rise of discourse about Bl, I’ve only ever seen white queers preach on this topic but I’ve never seen queer asian men talk on it. The ones that do speak up on it are kinda nonchalant abt it. I have a lot of Asian friends that are also queer and dont really seem to care about the Bl discourse as passionately as their white counterparts, so if anyone wants try and explain this phenomenon to me, I’d appreciate it greatly
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although i love my frog, this man is too fine to not be a pfp ╥﹏╥
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Can be small, personal, big, or universal. I hate how when somebody says a blunt satirical statement, everyone gets that it's sarcastic and laugh along with it but when *I* say something blunt that I OBVIOUSLY meant in a sarcastic way all of sudden people think I'm serious and is in fact stupid for saying that.
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Whether you're an artist or a beginner I want you to drop either your best drawing or a recent one you did (or a work in progress is fine too).
Traditional or digital! Anything is fine!
Traditional or digital! Anything is fine!
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How cooked am I for accidentally giving my full name to a stranger online
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Help me find this one edit uploaded back when squid game season 1 just came out and it was trending on tik tok, I remember it was the part where the salesman was recruiting Gi-hun but instead some girl edited herself in his spot and was whispering and talking to him, remember she said something like "need a wife?" PLS ITS BEEN HAUNTING ME FOR DAYS
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some korean authors really overdo their characters' name and i cant stop laughing
examples are "carlisle kendrick evelina vondelle evaristo" "melkiades rekshai rosil rehel" lmaoooo
examples are "carlisle kendrick evelina vondelle evaristo" "melkiades rekshai rosil rehel" lmaoooo
about become happy again
For a loong time i didnt date anyone or even had a crush on a human being. It was always too complicated for me and rather spend my time reading/ watching stuff.
Here in the fictional world there were characters, men and women, who immediately took me by storm and i felt like I actually fell in love.
Not cringe imma-dedicate-my-personality-to-you kinda crush but i found myself thinking about these not-real people and wished I had someone like that. Someone who would treat me right and have these silly stories be our real life.
Now when I looked at the real world i grew sad how the dating life worked, toxicity and constant arguments that happend. Sure some had it good but its not a given to have a good partner.
I now have a literal book definition of a perfect boyfriend but tbh if it wasnt him I would still be single cause no way im trying my hands on this bs. Nuh-uh
Anyways do yall have similar feelings for fictional characters/ dating world in general?
Here in the fictional world there were characters, men and women, who immediately took me by storm and i felt like I actually fell in love.
Not cringe imma-dedicate-my-personality-to-you kinda crush but i found myself thinking about these not-real people and wished I had someone like that. Someone who would treat me right and have these silly stories be our real life.
Now when I looked at the real world i grew sad how the dating life worked, toxicity and constant arguments that happend. Sure some had it good but its not a given to have a good partner.
I now have a literal book definition of a perfect boyfriend but tbh if it wasnt him I would still be single cause no way im trying my hands on this bs. Nuh-uh
Anyways do yall have similar feelings for fictional characters/ dating world in general?
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i used to be a good student. then medical entrance exam preparation started in grade 11, and it's been a downwards hill ever since. im currently in my drop year, still preparing for this goddamn exam, and I'm tired of literally the same syllabus over and over and over again. seriously this is so fucking frustrating. everyone around me keeps saying how they think im a sincere student and how much they believe in me, my marks haven't even gotten better at the tests im giving at the institutes preparing me for this exam. my marks have only gone lower since the past few months, I've lost all hope of cracking this exam, and i just wanna get this all over with already.
i know i have other options. i know people can succeed even by taking these other option paths. and this year, if i don't clear these exams, well obviously I'll have to select one of these other options. which also have entrance exams for them, which i don't even know if I'll be able to clear anymore. my self confidence it at an all time low.
i just wish people stopped telling me they believe in me, and just give me the fucking truth, that I can't make it, because frankly speaking, I'm never gonna be able to believe in myself anymore after almost 3 years of gruelling, hard work giving me this meagre marks. every exam i give, the marks are absolutely abysmal. to the point where i think the teachers at my coaching institute have probably given up on me too. but like, someone please just say it to my face so that i can suffer through the five stages of grief and then move on from this impossible dream of mine to crack this exam already.
i know i have other options. i know people can succeed even by taking these other option paths. and this year, if i don't clear these exams, well obviously I'll have to select one of these other options. which also have entrance exams for them, which i don't even know if I'll be able to clear anymore. my self confidence it at an all time low.
i just wish people stopped telling me they believe in me, and just give me the fucking truth, that I can't make it, because frankly speaking, I'm never gonna be able to believe in myself anymore after almost 3 years of gruelling, hard work giving me this meagre marks. every exam i give, the marks are absolutely abysmal. to the point where i think the teachers at my coaching institute have probably given up on me too. but like, someone please just say it to my face so that i can suffer through the five stages of grief and then move on from this impossible dream of mine to crack this exam already.
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Bro I’m so sick of people commenting on my accent especially cause you bitches can not for the life of you agree on what I apparently sound like
I go to church and it’s all “your American accent has taken over” “you sound white” “you speak like Donald trump (they were being deadass when they said this)”
BUT THEN
I GO TO WORK
AND THE CUSTOMERS WANNA BE LIKE
“Oh where are you from?” “I like your accent” “your accent is really cute and the fact that you don’t realize you have one is even cuter (honestly one of the worst pick up lines I have heard in my entire life like I had to stop everything I was doing just so I could give him a blank stare)
I got curious and asked one time how they knew I was Nigerian because I’m pretty damn sure I don’t have an accent especially when I use my customer service voice and apparently it’s the “incantation of my voice” whatever the fuck that means
Anyways immigrants of mangago please tell me y’all know what I’m talking about and if you do please explain it to me because I don’t understand
I go to church and it’s all “your American accent has taken over” “you sound white” “you speak like Donald trump (they were being deadass when they said this)”
BUT THEN
I GO TO WORK
AND THE CUSTOMERS WANNA BE LIKE
“Oh where are you from?” “I like your accent” “your accent is really cute and the fact that you don’t realize you have one is even cuter (honestly one of the worst pick up lines I have heard in my entire life like I had to stop everything I was doing just so I could give him a blank stare)
I got curious and asked one time how they knew I was Nigerian because I’m pretty damn sure I don’t have an accent especially when I use my customer service voice and apparently it’s the “incantation of my voice” whatever the fuck that means
Anyways immigrants of mangago please tell me y’all know what I’m talking about and if you do please explain it to me because I don’t understand
