I think the seme is almost as bad at communicating and over thinking as the uke, mainly when it comes to the bigger conflicts of the story, and the a few of the uke’s spiralling episodes could have been resolved if the seme communicated better. Now don’t get me wrong the uke is still bad a communication and a lot of the comments point that out, but, I don’t think the seme is like a blameless saint for putting up with him or anything
Examples (not in order):
- the seme kept it a secret that he was going to the gym, because he was was overthinking that the uke wasn’t satisfied with him, because he found a tonic he thought was meant for him from the uke, and instead of talking to him about it, he secretly started going to the gym, which the uke spiralled about as well, they were thinking the same thing, that their partners weren’t happy or satisfied with them, so they were the same yet it seems to be painted as only the uke being crazy overthinking.
-when the seme left after the last fight, he didn’t communicate that it would only be for a day, and that he was going to get some of his stuff from his parents house, and not leaving for good. I understand in the heat of the not saying that, but, you’re telling me after he cooled down he couldn’t have shot off a text to the uke saying he wasn’t leaving him and he’ll be back soon? And when he comes back he acts like the uke is crazy to think he was leaving him, or at the very least it was going to be a long time he was staying at his parents. Like in no universe that could be what would happen, I think communication from the seme after he cooled down would have been the right thing to do.
- the seme knew that the smile at the gym thing was bothering the uke and that the uke is the type of person to bottle it all up and stew over it, yet he didn’t bring it up himself, a short conversation would have been all it took to put his mind at ease. And yes I know it’s not the seme’s responsibility to read his partners mind and the uke is an adult who should communicate his emotions properly, but the seme knows that his partner has this type of personality and what just lets him stew until his breaking point? If he left it alone for a reason, like maybe he wanted the uke to tell him himself and talk about it from that angle afterwards, I would at least understand, but he didn’t say anything like that (unless I missed it) when it all came to a head.
- when the uke tried to ride him the first time, all he said was ‘enough’, no further explanation, no telling the uke it wasn’t him and that he didn’t do anything wrong, just ‘enough’ and moving on, I think anyone would be hurt by that not just an insecure, overthinker. If the seme had just told the uke then and there, that he was just too sexy and very tight from that position, that he would come to soon or something like that, the uke would not only have not been hurt and thought he did something wrong which led to a spiral, he probably would have gotten a little confidence boost out of it.
I think there are a couple of other small instances, but can’t remember the details.
If you read till the end here’s a, good job, cookie
Their first time having sex together will definitely put me off rereading this story, but since there hasn’t been anymore SA (that I can remember) I’ll finish it, but, that made me uncomfortable. And yes I think their first time was SA, uke was quite drunk, he seemed confused and all foggy, and also said he wanted the seme to slow down and even that he wanted to stop, but, the seme didn’t care and just had sex with him anyway, just because it wasn’t violent doesn’t mean it wasn’t SA. Just putting my opinion out there since I haven’t seen anyone mention it (that I know of) so if your not into their first time being, while one of them is intoxicated and wanted to stop and the other not caring and having sex anyway, this comment is for you
Huh what are u talking about? SA. In this?
you should go outside maybe
The first time you mentioned it was Just a wet dream of the same. The real first time it's was perfectly consensual
I thought maybe you might be right cuz I remember he was drunk but i just reread that chapter and the consent could not be more explicit. Yeorum literally asks hyeonseon if it's ok to go all the way and he says yes. That's as explicit as it gets. He also checks in on him multiple times and Hyeonson also converses properly (not blackout drunk) so it's very obviously consensual. Not all sex where one person is intoxicated is SA, you need to be completely incapacitated and unable to give proper consent to be considered SA
Do you know how to read..?
I'm sorry but sa? Where? Having sex while drunk isn't automatically sa... And he wasn't even that drunk - honestly it looked more like he was trying to rationalize having sex with a guy by blaming it on alcohol lol
It was impulsive, sure, they didn't sit down for a "let's have sex" talk, they just did, but it doesn't mean it wasn't consensual...
Right before the top put it in, didn’t the bottom say to wait, or that he wanted to stop, he verbalized that he didn’t want to and the top put it in anyway, didn’t he? And before that the bottom wanted to slow down, which was also ignored. I’m not saying you HAVE to sit down to have a sex talk, and sure it’s not always SA when one party is drunk and the other isn’t, but this time felt uncomfortable to me personally, and the scene from kissing in the rain to the hard cut of them on the couch and he seemed confused and not really all there seemed weird but maybe I’m misinterpreting that, but I stand by that it was at least dubious consent and even if all the ukes concerns stem from confusion from sleeping with a man, the fact is he made it verbally known he wanted to slow down or not go further than the point before penetration and that was all ignored, it’s fine it you don’t see it that way, but I did.
It was a funny story, but then the author had to ruin it with rape, not only was he really drunk, but also not stopping and not caring about the mc protests, disappointing because like I said it was a fun story
So the seme rapes the uke, but the seme is just sooooo cute and innocent and funny, seriously, how can he be viewed like that. No one can convince me that wasn’t rape, not only is the uke really drunk, which should have been enough of a reason, the seme didn’t listen to the uke, or even really give him a time to properly process things, he just rushed though with only his own wants on his mind. And the “I can’t stop” line, makes me eye roll ever time, the fuck you mean you CAN’T stop, no, you could, you just don’t want to, so you use the word CAN’T to absolve you of your wrongdoings, in this case SA. Like your action are out your control so it can’t possibly be your fault.