now ask that to him, is he willing to give up his culture and identify for you? if he said yes then he should break their tradition to be w you
there's a lot of horror stories about losing their identity within the marriage and i know it was hell for them just by listening to it, now imagine yourself 10 years from now?
if you want to work it out ...... reply
Girl no fuck that man and fuck his family if they won’t accept you for who you are, and he supportive of his family decision of not accepting you for your identity then you guys clearly need to have a talk and sort out your feelings if you guys weren’t together for so long, I would have just said leave him and find someone better but you guys h...... reply
a lot of people put these burden on a woman as its in her nature to adapt out of "love for others", you may feel now this is the right thing to do as you love your boyfriend and may give into the pressure..but i want you to picture your life after 10,20 years, giving up your identity will take a toll and destroy you slowly from the inside.
best wis...... reply
absolutely not. they want to control and isolate you. that's likely been his expectation the whole time you've known him if it's a "family tradition." this shit is more common than you think. "hey babe let's move closer to where my family are. for US" then bam, you have no friends, no family nearby, no work connections, no one to rely on except him...... reply
holyyyyyy shit hon this is really risky this could end very terribly if things dont end up well and the idea of dissolving yourself into his whole culture is crazy what happened to your own identity and the fact hes so onboard with it?? thats a redflag itself, idk how to tell you this but this is probably going to end up very badly unless you work ...... 1 reply
no, dont do it, you will regret it later on, I know people who changed religions and traditions for their lovers but they regretted it, so its not worth it, love can come and go, its not lasting, especially if you are in your 20s. reply
If you gave up YOUR culture and identity, would you still best "you"? You still won't fit in and will start feeling trapped in marriage. Ultimately, your love would turn into resentment. So It’s won't be worth it. Please talk it out with your bf. If he truly loves you, he will understand and respect your decision and self identity. reply
