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Is it common for partners to fantasize about sex with other people while in a relationship? Is it okay? Would someone be an asshole or insecure for not wanting their partner to do that and even breaking up if they found out they did?

Example. A woman finds out her husband has threesome fantasies. Most people would say a fantasy isn’t always an actual want/plan to do it and it’s not the same as cheating, so it’s not a problem. If the woman is upset or leaves him she’d be an asshole. Is she?

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Mama_Agnus 04 09,2025

I actually asked my husband that, and he said doesn't like the idea of having sex with anyone else and then got sad because he thought I wanted to fuck Superman (i do). 1 reply

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Nosequeponer 03 09,2025

It depends? If it's like a celebrity or a fictional character, who cares, everyone fantasizes w those Now, to voluntarity fantisize having sex, or even just kissing with someone you know while being in a relationship? That's something you HAVE to talk to with your partner, it doesn't necessarily has to be a problem if you're both, like, let's say p...... reply

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Hhehehe 04 09,2025

So, between me and my husband we joke about it most of the time like "oh yeah I would fuck her/him" like jokingly as it's our way of saying that character is fine af (we only say it with fictional characters with actors or real people we say it in a respectful manner) but we don't ACTUALLY fantasize about it bc it would just put both of us off and ...... 1 reply

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Purple_Shrooms 03 09,2025

I don't think it's normal to fantasize about other people while you/anybody is actively in a relationship, it may not be actually "cheating" but if you truly loved or liked your partner you wouldn't think of other people and fantasize about them. And if my partner told me that they did fantasize about someone else while we were in a relationship I ...... reply

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CM3 2.0 04 09,2025

There’s a difference between having fantasies and acting on them and it also depends on what boundaries you and your partner set up Personally it doesn’t bother me I think you’re insecure if you break up with someone over an imaginary fantasy they mentioned since I think it’s normal and it’s just apart of having a vivid imagination, it�...... reply

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Beom's Milkers 04 09,2025

Why would you fantasize about someone else when you are in a relationship. It's a form of cheating. It just means you are fantasizing about fucking someone else because you cannot fuck them irl because of legality and morality. You would rather just go and cheat on your partner properly than fantasize about it. reply

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Pesky33 03 09,2025

It’s normal to do it (and normal to not do it) Imagining isn’t cheating. If you’re too insecure about them imagining doing something with someone else, you need to learn some trust and work on your self esteem reply

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BoardingSine 04 09,2025

I think the point is you each have your own expectations in a relationship and just need to make sure they align. I personally point out hot women to my hubby when I see them because that man is oblivious as heck. I don’t mind him having fantasies and actually encourage them. I don’t want him putting me on a pedestal. But that’s my marriage. ...... reply

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____ 04 09,2025

As far as I'm concerned, she's avoiding a red flag. Realistically, if people are approving of fantasies then things like emotional cheating don't exist and that also means that wanting to fuck your wifes sister is also alright once you only have the fantasy in your head. reply

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Hikyooeon 04 09,2025

I mean why would you do that though lol? Your lover is RIGHT THERE! no problem with like celebrities or models cause that's just attraction. If its literally someone they know personally that's a no-no, it's surely emotional cheating but that's how most cheaters start lol. reply

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