You know what's funny? If the OP didn't say she was lesbian half of these replies would be about her being a "fetishizing straight woman" people refuse to acknowledge how male centered and misogynistic a lot of queer women are reply
SOME fujoshi are sooo male centered that they reject everything that doesnt involve them in an important way and they are so close minded that they hate people with a different opinion (wich are the himejoshi or just male decentered people) and they just cant wrap their head about it so they end up thinking that those people are in the wrong and th...... 2 reply
Honestly, CNC is tough for me to wrap my head around. I get the appeal, the thrill of being totally overpowered while knowing deep down you’re safe and can hit the brakes anytime with a safeword, it requires absolute trust.
But I also totally get why others find it problematic, or even disrespectful to survivors of real sexual violence. The huge...... reply
me personally I just mind my business because I don’t have a say in what two consenting adults do in their bedroom, but also some people use it as a coping mechanism sometimes due to past trauma so I can’t really judge. We all have different reasons for what we do and don’t do sooo reply
These edgy fucks who wants to be perceived as problematic so bad online because they think it makes them so much more interesting as a person and totally not just a fucking loser will say anything. I think they're male centered to the point they don't even realize it and actually they think they're the progressive ones, don't pay attention to these...... reply
it's just pure misogyny and an heterosexual conception of homosexuality. it has to fit the heterosexual and misogynystic standards wich are that the woman is the bottom and the man is the top, so bottom have to be feminine to look like a woman and bottom have to be masculine to look like a men but it's complete bs reply
we dont have anything to say about what two (or more) grown ass adults do in their bedroom as long as it doesnt involve us personaly and that they respect each other and that it's consensual. cnc is CONSENSUAL so it's not a problem it's just a kink like an other reply
People love to polarize things when they dont understand them huh. A lot of practices inside BDSM stem from trauma, theyre scenarios that allow people to experience something in an environment where they feel safe. Its not romanticizing rape and also not an "excuse to rape someone"
Vast majority of people into CNC are subs and (out of those) is als...... reply
I dont personally like the idea of feeding into ur intrusive thoughts because thoughts of rape and stuff are all hyper-sexuality and i believe that the person should get that checked but hey both parties are consenting so whats my issue reply
It's just another kink to me. It's a roleplay dynamic and prearranged. There's all sorts of people and circumstances, so i respect it. Not all CNC is rape-play, but all rape-play is CNC. Honestly, i feel like people don't realize just how important and MANDATORY consent, communication, trust, respect and boundaries are to anyone who has some intere...... reply
what grown adults do in the bedroom consensually and privately (that doesn't involve me personally) doesn't matter. as long as the parties are safe and have everything put in place for comfort, then it shouldn't be debated. the pearl clutching could literally be applied to any plays of S&M/BDSM (being insensitive to people who were tied up hostage...... 1 reply
I definitely get the appeal of CNC, being both submissive and a masochist. It's essentially just rape in a controlled setting where, in a healthy bdsm relationship, the 'victim' is in full control of when and where the play ends. It also helps when you are disgusted by your own intrusive thoughts. reply
Twink top, Buff Top, Twink Bottom, Buff Bottom all men.
Pretty top, Handsome top, Pretty bottom, handsome bottom all men.
At the end of the day, I don't understand the discourse we're all here for men.
Sad though there's many factors like looking for heteronormativity in yaoi, something most fans don't want to agree, something internalized we shou...... 1 reply
idk bruh, i don't understand it. what's the point of sexualizing and romanticizing, for lack of a better word, actual crimes? what's the point of wanting to turn traumatic experiences that have happened and continue to happen to millions of people around the world into your fantasy?? i don't find anything enjoyable or desirable about someone forcin...... reply
That’s literally just a word. Sexism.
that type of thinking reflects a very old sexist idea (and one that still prevails among some people with shit in their brains) that femininity = passivity and masculinity = dominance. in many works, the seme is portrayed as the dominant, masculine and protective one, while the bottom is delicate, smaller co...... reply
'Things' are your daily life experiences by which you get to know the world around you. Tell others about the things you did, may it be cool, sad, crazy or funny. You can also find things that you might want to do and a friend to do it with!
