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I want to ask something, genuinely curious what people think. Do you guys believe that not wanting straight side couples in BL/GL is inherently misogynistic? I came across a thread where a girl said exactly that, she didn’t like straight side couples in her BL/GL, and the response was cruel. People called her every word in the book. Misogynistic, fetishizing, generalizing, basically anything that ended in “ize” or “ic” got thrown at her, whether or not it actually applied.

Here’s my take, I don’t think it’s misogynistic. Not even a little. If I’m reading a BL or a GL, I’m there for queer representation. That’s the reason I picked it up in the first place. So when a straight side couple gets inserted into the story, it’s not that I have a problem with hetero romance, I read plenty of it and enjoy it, it’s that it’s not what I came for. Wanting the media you turn to for representation to actually represent you isn’t a problem.

What bothers me is how casually people throw around words like “misogynistic” and “fetishizing.” These aren’t just insults you get to deploy because someone has a preference you don’t like. They mean something. And when you use them this loosely, you drain them of any weight for the situations where they genuinely apply.

The part that really gets me is that it’s usually the same people making these accusations who don’t actually care about gay men being fetishized, and don’t actually care about misogyny. They’re not defending anyone. They’re using the language of social justice as cover for what is, plainly, homophobia. Calling someone a “gay fetishizer” for reading BL, or “misogynistic” for not wanting heterosexual relationships in queer media isn’t concern about representation, it’s an excuse to be upset that queer stories exist without needing to justify themselves to people who dislike gay people in the first place. What’s your opinion on this?

Pink, turquoise, or green?

Hey I've been part of this website for so long but there are still so manh features that I don't know, like for example how do you post a story, manhwa, manga on Mangago ?

i lowkey want to start listening to them....

People who are in relationships, or have been, how seriously do you take advice from relationship advice from friends with no dating experience?

For context: (You can js ignore my story but and answer the main question btw) I have no actual dating or sexual experience myself, and it's not something I hide or am ashamed about. It's not that I'm uninterested, I've just never really pursued possible relationships for whatever reason, and I'm relatively content with just having my close friendships. I'm also def the honest 'say-it-how-it-is' type of friend, and while I try my best to be polite when it come to friends I know are sensitive, I rarely sugarcoat my words with close friends, and really prioritise open communication.

In the past, and present, I've had friends come to me to talk about their troubles in their relationship, or I hear about friends and their shirty partners, and I always do my best to advise them by seeing things in their perspectives. And while I'm not expecting them to always take my advice and act on it, I wonder how much they really take it to heart. Especially when they don't seem to act on my advice, only for them to break up with that partner a couple months later because said partner's behaviour had only gotten worse. OR when I advised that the couple go on a break, or at least communicate about how they feel, only for one of them to cheat on the other. (Both ppl in that couple were my friends)

i was wondering if you could ban people on this site and this account:

https://www.mangago.me/home/people/5242541/home/

pisses me off so much. i dont know if their ragebait or if they are being fr but its literally not funny and its so uncomfortable knowing that their account isnt banned. cherry on top their from israel so . the things they comment about and the lists they make are so disgusting and gross

before i say anything I will preface this by saying I genuinely don't gaf who you wanna date or don't wanna date personally, and I don't think anyone should be forced to date anyone else for any reason.
This isn't what I'm talking abt, you already know it's not what I'm talking about. This is purely about the logistics of using blanket terms, especially when being outspoken about your "type".

Okay here it goes
I feel like at a certain point we have to accept something is no longer a "dating preference" and just a stereotype you believe.

Sure, there can be perfectly normal reasons why someone may be less inclined to pursue relationships with certain members of minority groups, even if they otherwise fit their standards. I can believe that for the most part.

But the inherent denial, the line in the sand that you draw and openly point at, that's not the same. Fkn hell, historically gay communities have had "no fats or fems", and we never act (or at least i hope none of you act) like it was anything other than misogyny and a blunt idolisation of eurocentric male beauty standards. There's a reason we disavow that kind of expression now.

But then when we have people sitting on the internet, signaling about how they would never date this group or that group, trans people, bisexual people, whoever tf. We somehow feel the need to have a discussion about "well who knows why that person has this opinion".
As if what someone hitting post on something where they talk about how they would "never date" so and so, is doing anything other than pointing a finger at a whole array of individuals and saying "you are like this. i dont like that". Usually to a minority group, sometimes making their romantic distaste for said group their whole personality.

I simply do not believe anyone coming online making such blanket statements has a single bone on them that cares for the group they're talking about at the most basic human level. And im tired of pretending it's okay to spew blatant hatred whole hiding behind personal taste

does anyone else feel the need to drop a manhwa when the art suddenly changes. i feel so shady doing so becayse the plot hasn’t changed but once i see the change which i don’t realize till multiple chapters in i just can’t unsee it. like this is how i feel about the chambermaid manhwa rn like the before n after of the first chapter n most recent ones kill me

Idk if anyone else has been on this side of tiktok but there's been a discourse on straight women not wanting to date bisexual male and im genuinely curious on your opinion and why coming from a straight/bi/gay male or female perspective

I personally would have no issue dating a bisexual male as long as he treats me right and is attracted to me whoever his previous partners were male or female and whether he was taking or giving it doesn't bother me but is it to say straight women not wanting to date gay men homophobic ?

I really want to read a novel, but I don't know why I get distracted so easily, even though the story is interesting. I always do that. Is there a way to prevent this from happening? I have a lot of novel recommendations from my friends, but I can't read them because of this.






*I have dyslexia, but it only flares up when I'm too tired, and I read novels when I have free time(or when im not tired) ╥﹏╥

There’s a new study that was just released that says our brains a fully develop at age 32 (it used to be said it was 25).

Five Eras of Brain DevelopmentChildhood:
Birth to age 9
Adolescence: Age 9 to 32 (refining networks and wiring)
Adulthood: Age 32 to 66 (stable architecture)
Early Aging: Age 66 to 83
Late Aging: Age 83 onward

And I think it makes sense.
Thinking back on some of the things I read and enjoyed back in my late teens/early 20s and if I’m honest, I can’t go back to reread. They don’t appeal to me anymore.
I’m a lot more cognizant of my limits. What I can and cannot stomach and how far I can read/watch something before I need a break.

It’s been an interesting realization.

Hello everyone, I was wondering on how people read yaoi when there at vacation or somewhere that’s not there home, because I went to Arizona to chill before I went to school and I couldent read my yaoi at night since I need to be at home using my iPad to read my daily night yaoi. Besides that let me lore dump you about my life: so since the beginning of 6th grade which I was 10 (don’t ask why I knew yaoi at 10) I used to read yaoi at night with my phone but the problem was I used to sleep in the same room as my parents and sibling and sometimes I would get my phone taken away since it’s night and they wanted me to get good rest so. before we moved I used to read yaoi at night since I couldent read yaoi in the day since I had school and I couldent when I was at home since I did homework and at night was the only free time so I stuck with that. When we moved into a different house and got my own room I read yaoi on my phone but it was before my parents said to leave my phone in the living room so I couldn’t be on it so I lost my phone yaoi privileges and I remembered I had a tablet that I didn’t use and my parents didn’t know I had one so I used the tablet to read my yaoi at night and ever since i switch to my tablet to read yaoi I cannot read yaoi on my phone since I got so used to my tablet. Back to the vacation thing through middle school and highschool (which am currently in) my family would go out of the country or city to go visit places that we liked and since I can’t bring my tablet since it needs WiFi and my hotspot is shit so I can’t read my yaoi and the only way I could only read yaoi is if am at home, with my iPad, only but since we travel time to time I can’t bring it and I feel like am losing out and I could read it on my phone but it’s better on iPad so I would beat myself up for some reason so I need you guys opinion on this (sorry for this long ass rant)

Sometimes I come across them proshipers or whatever they're called and they say that all the time. They apparently separate themself from fiction so hard that they dont feel uncomfortable by a graphic depiction of some little kid getting raped by their dad,
But I dont get it how that works, like obviously this fictional scenario isnt real and the manga characters aren't real either but you're real and the thing the manga is depicting happens in real life.

I know most of y'all are woke like me help I need you to agree with me because I feel like thats crazy

Why do some authors draw out rape scenes I romance books, its really disturbing. Like it can be implied rape if it's really that essential to the plot but otherwise it just really makes me uncomfortable

yaoi anatomy has gotten out of hand why is everybody's shoulders quadruple the size of their heads this is so prevalent in manhwa omg... mangas usually dont have the same problem

im an artist (who draws gay porn pretty often so I KNOW MY SHIT) and it kills me every damn time bruh. i knwo face syndrome is bad in yaoi but what about the dorito body syndrome. their shoulders are always 1 mile in length and narrows down to an itsy bitsy spider went up the water spout waist

Guys I wanna start painting using oil paint but I'm not really used to it cause it takes too long to dry, I'm worried I might ruin it before it even dry. I haven't paint since I made something for my project aaand this is the second time I'll be using oil paint, I've been using acrylic paint since I was a kid .. any tips? Like how many amount of paint do I need for it to dry faster, last time I use many paints but some of it didn't get to use it on the canvas and it takes weeks for the painting to dry and I even use hair dryer

But do it in your native language

hello! i’ve been looking around in my list of read mangas and i can’t find the one where there are four main people: a short-haired girl that plays a horn instrument, her shy, pretty girl friend, a guy that the short-haired girl like, and another guy that i kinda forgot. what i remember clearly is that the shy, pretty girl likes her teacher that’s also the club adviser (afaik) of the short-haired girl).

thank you for the assistance!

What is one fandom you've larped before? Mine is Death Is The Only Ending For The Villainess.. SORRY OKAY. K just couldn't get into it, sue me.