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So I'm in a situationship with somebody. I like them like ik I'm into them in a romantic way but I know to myself I cannot commit to this relationship. I have a lot issues with myself, mostly because I'm in a point of my life I just hate myself. I don't want this person that I like to waste their time on me.

And I'm stuck because there's a lot of moments I retract to myself, and literally don't talk to anyone during my episodes. There's times where I just disappear for days without warning, friends, families, anyone. In this case I end up ghosting them and I feel like such a fucking asshole. It should've been an easy fix but during those times I just cannot talk to people at all.

I told them about all this and it's an asshole move for me— but I tried to cut them off my life. They're such a fucking amazing person y'all I fucking kid you not. Understanding to a point they don't blame me for my bullshit disappearances. Also they went along with my demand to see for 6 months if we're gonna work out before we get into a relationship. And they're so fucking patient with me, so calm and attentive. Affectionate as hell, they made me feel like I'm the only one for them. I like them a whole lot. I like them so much I literally cannot let them be with me because I fucking SUCK.

They asked me one time if I wanted to just stop the fuckass situationship we have, cuz I kept on worrying and secretly hoping that they'd just leave me and find another girl so I can be back to being alone. I'm mfucking torn I don't want to lose them but I don't want them to end up with me. They didn't want me to say yes, but they'd do it if I told em to fuck off and I ended up just liking them more.

I SWEAR TO GOD I'M MY WORST OPP. My feelings hasn't changed about liking them and wanting to run away bc ik I'm going to end up ruining this good thing. What the fuck do I do.

Hii, so I read this manhwa years ago and there were not many chapters so I don't know much of the plot. I tried searching, but so far haven't found it. But from what I remember, FL is an actress she's been since childhood, now she's not super big, in the sense of getting main roles and all - i think she has red hair, might be wrong. ML is her childhood friend you could say, they know each other since childhood, her parents were rather neglectful so she would spent time at his house sometimes because her parents weren't home and I think she couldn't get inside the house. ML is an actor now, as an adult, he's A-list, like one of the top actors, he convices her to create a scandal and get married, that would put her in the spotlight and help her career. There's hints that he is doing all that to try and save her that he might have regressed or something but I don't know because there were too little chapters. But that's what I remember, sorry if it's confusing, English is not my first language and I'm trying to right as I remember. If anyone might have any idea I would really appreciate!! I don't even know if the manhwa was ever finished or anything but I was really invested at the time.

Is it just me or does anyone else feel like if they don't do something a certain way something bad will happen. I don't know but there are somethings I have to do a certain way or else something bad or unfortunate will happen the next day or that day. My mother says I am weird for doing this but if I don't do these I keep being anxious that something will happen the next day and sometimes it actually does. What is this plz help.

Idgaf if it's the most common ship on planet earth or a rareship only 0.0000000001% of the world knows about let me be the listener to your yapper

This is a no judgement zone

Can someone recommend me songs similar to Unethical by Faouzia, Undo by Sanna Nielsen, or The Greatest by Billie Eilish? Like songs that would make me levitateヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~

I haven’t been on this site as much lately which in most cases means I have decided to get a life but that’s completely not the case for me T-T Ive become even more chronically online spending my days on tiktok, twitter, discord, youtube, and ibis, with the only reason I’m not on this god damn site is bcs theres nothing interesting to read anymore. Sighhh hope u all have a good day tho.

I've been thinking about this for a while and I've decided I need to confess (again). I confessed when i first had a crush on him, before we became friends and it was a more nonchalant thing. He said he didn't want to date someone he was friends first.
Over the last 2 years, we've become friends (mostly through mutuals and group stuff). I realized recently that I have feelings again, which are definitely more serious. I was told by a mutual that after we hung out for the first time alone last week (farmers market trip), he asked his friend if they thought I still like him. The friend said it was possible, but could go either way and asked what he thought. He said he "had never thought about it before" and that he likes spending time with me. Knowing him, he probably didn't give it any more thought past that .
Even though I'm pretty sure he doesn't feel the same way, I need to get it off my chest before he graduates next month and leaves for his job. Any advice on what to say? And how I might be able to get him alone without setting off the alarms in his head?

Lowkey I feel like being on this site is more enjoyable than like anything else lol. But yeah I should live a fulfilling life and people are gonna ask me what are my interests

do u guys think sunsun is real i think they’re real and fucking

Any ppl here who used to ship taekook back in the days, and now have woken up? What made u realize that it wasn't real?


I would watch a lot of taekook analysis videos and it was literally my favorite thing to do as I get home from school TT namjin was my GOATTT, used to rlly believe they were tgt too. And honorable mention is yoonmin(and sope ngl), but I just felt bad tat the other members didn't have any pairings tbh LMAO

A manga/ Webtoon? That was adapted into a short series. Two male leads—not BL. They’re friends in university I think and they share an apartment? One of them wears glasses and the has hair around his ears I think. There’s this scene I recall where one of the is using the bathroom and the other accidentally sees him showering? It’s a running gag because there’s a window in the bathroom leading to the hallway. It was really funny. Help me please yall

I'm not trying to have a debate or a conversation about certain critiques in this post, I'm just asking straight up isn't this misogyny?

Isn't denying female readers nuance for what they read misogyny? As if we don't live or society wasn't built on patriarchy that has shaped how women lived, what experiences they had, how they cope with the world. Like I'm not trying to say critiques aren't allowed but when we don't take into account or try to care for the nuance of why women engage with or write certain stories, relying on one-note assumptions or assessments, isn't that just straight up misogyny? I think it's interesting how nuance is demanded with things like "not all men" but no nuance is considered for women, especially when it comes to the stories they engage with. Again im not saying critiques can't happen, I don't mind if critiques happen, but I don't understand why critiques must become sweeping judgements and generalization of women that becomes the general idea of how we view those women, despite whatever nuance they have or give, when also on the flip side people are more vigilant in generalizing men going "not all men".

I think critiques are valid to make and have but I think the nuance should also be engaged with, not to justify, but to address the root problems. Don't you guys think so too? And if we don't care to give women nuance or engage with their nuance, to the point where we rarely do and instead run on the sweeping generalizations we make of them, what does that say about us? Aren't we now the pawns of patriarchy, doing it's job for it? Blaming women, excerting most if not all our energy on deeming a 'bad'/'unpleasant' women and putting them down, deflecting from the primary boogeyman/puppet master the patriarchy.

I also think it's interesting about what rights we think we have to deny a group their nuance and their context of being under a systemic power. Are we saying or telling them they aren't /that/ affected by that system? Why do we feel the need to do that? To impose our judgements over their nuance? Isn't this a power play? I could go on but I'm stopping here.

From what I can remeber it was an Omegaverse and it was lowkey giving ceo type shit for the ML. The omega and CEo were married however, he was blind and had this weird thing about “checking” his omega. Long story short we get introduced to the brother and as usual the omega and brother are doing stuff in front of the husband. It randomly popped in my head and now I can’t stop thinking about it about it. Please held me find the name of this story.

I need a new site to watch c and k dramas so you guys have any that haven’t been taken down yet?

If you guys ever had a bl panel as your wallpaper, what was it? My first ever one was a panel of Pearl Boy where it was Dooshik and his old friends posted up by the sign Peter Pan

i personally do not understand why there's so much rape in yaoi. and it's not a recent thing either. alot of older yaoi(finder series, gravitation, dakaichi, etc) have rape in it. and some of the older resident fujoshis still talk about those in nostalgic way, even though they know it did have rape and SA and other problematic elements in it. all the popular yaoi have mostly been filled with rape, no matter the time. why do you think this normalisation of SA comes from? if yaoi is mostly catered to women, doesn't it make more sense that women would feel negatively about rape in stories since women are victims of such crimes irl more than men?
so what could be the possible reasons? is this some kind of sick rape revenge mentality? or is it a sick fetish of wanting to rape men if they were a man?
it's something that feels so misogynist even though i cant put down a finger where.
i want to know this from a person who's been a "resident fujoshi/fudanshi" and was in the yaoi genre early on (late 00s or early 10s maybe?) I have been in the BL community since 2018-19 and rape is something i have never understood. i personally don't read yuri this much, but overall yuri doesn't have this much normalisation of rape (as much as i have seen atleast). that doesn't mean yuri genre doesn't have problematic stories, it just isn't as mainstream to have a rape scene in yuri.
so why do you think yaoi has so much rape and SA? what could be the reason behind it?

hi guys i would love to discover more unique music or even the one that is your personal fav so feel free to drop some recs below

i genuinely don't understand localising over translating.

is it really that hard to put a small t/n in the footnote explaining hyung or noona? gege or jiejie? instead of removing it entirely.

or to explain national festivals and holidays, like chuseok?

it's not.

esp when the localisation is american bc ik many kor/jpn/chn lingo, or currency, but not this americanised equivalent. translating shouldn't solely focus on the source language but source culture as well.

anyway. fan translation and t/n supremacy.

I remember this manhwa where the FL says smth along the lines of “You’re telling me I’ve had your love from the beginning? Looks like your love is poisoning me. Stop loving me.”

Any help would be appreciated tyyyy