It is not pathetic at all, not only have you experienced trauma but you're also only 22, you have time! Although, that doesn't mean you ever need to be in a relationship no matter your age. Please don't feel as though you need romance/sex for a good life because it is seriously overrated in many ways. Focus on the things that truly make you happy i...... reply
Boyfriends are overrated. Dw op life as a single lady can be very fulfilling without those sorts of things if that's what you desire. People that think being single is pathetic are the ones who are truly pathetic.
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OP, there are far, far more things you can do/be that are truly pathetic. It's just never liking or having sex. If that's terrifying--i am perfectly fine and happy. Believe me, I'm asexual. And you too, are asexual. It's called being sex repulsed due to trauma. reply
its absolutely crazy to me that we are living in a day and age where sexual harassment is ‘normal’ for most women. this should not be normal for anyone, especially kids and teens
you shouldnt need to have a reason to view sex as disgusting, everyone has different views on it, and nor should you need a reason to not have a boyfriend. it is absol...... reply
i got sexually harassed a bunch of times as a kid and teenagers which is probably normal for most women. it never got to penetration, just touches and sometimes trapping me in a corner so i can’t run.
i don’t know if im wrongly using that as an excuse but intimacy scares me now and i have had a boyfriend because everyone brings up sex at some point. i don’t even want to kiss or anything. the idea disgusts me. i don’t know if i’m being conservative or those experiences made me view sex as disgusting. i don’t know.
but anyways i’m turning 22 this year and everyone keeps asking about my boyfriend and i have none and it feels pathetic. it is pathetic.
What the fuck is happening with my questions i want to edit and the only thing i can do is delete and when i want to post again nothing of my text is in there 7 reply
Even if the trauma was influencing her prejudice, it's still prejudice all the same.
I don't think it's fair to say you'd never want to date a whole ethnicity of people. Every one on earth is all different and unique.
There might be some cultural differences that make it hard for someone to date someone, but just because someone was brought up in a...... 2 reply
Man I rlly wish people pick up a dictionary more often instead of using racism as an umbrella term for xenophobia and colorism
Anyways, abt the last bit, ive always been weirded out by the way english speakers, most specifically the US, describes people's skin tone. Like they use color to determine race instead of using it to describe the actual c...... 1 reply
I believe that using things like "black" or "white" to describe someone isn't inherently racist, it just depends on the context.
But for the other topic you brought up, I think that it is actually quite racist. Not dating someone because they are a specific race is majorly racist even if she had a bad experience with a previously Iranian person s...... 3 reply
Yesterday was Fidel Castro 100th birthday and it reminded me of how he died the exact day I had to got back to Italy from Cuba. Like I woke up that morning to the radio going "Fidel Castro dead" and now i think i should take it a sign...he was sending me a sign or something i need to be kind of psychotic so I can be suicidal enough to actually do s...... 4 reply
Honestly, I have never regretting cutting ties with anyone in my whole life. I am that one chill guy with numerous hobbies, no close friends but friendly with everyone. Maybe that's why I may not understand it from ur perspective but come on.
If that old friend of urs talk bad abt you behind ur back and remain friends with your bullies, that's fc...... reply
Regret ? No . Miss it ? Sometimes . Cus no matter how good (and bad ) our friendship was , ik ending it was a good choice for both of us . Ik we were both better off without e/o than with e/o . reply
I was friends with the weird kid. Introvert, self-proclaimed loner. He had niche interests, all of which he dragged me into. I ended up spending 5 years listening to his rambling, forcing myself to read his fanfictions, and putting up with his lack of proactivity. Whenever I set boundries, he would compromise them. Being the person I am, I always g...... reply
im guessing you never had other friends who treated you better that’s why youre full of doubt whether dropping the person who bullied you was the right decision. yall may have had a ‘love-hate’ friendship judging by the way she defended you from other people too. very toxic imo because there would be good days and bad days— now you’re co...... reply
nah the thing is that the negatives outweigh the positives in relationships
even if it's a friend it's real easy for them to perform for you when they're in your face if they're the type to gaslight/be manipulative, but it's what they do when you're not around that matters more
i've cut off so many people i thought were friends (and some family too...... reply
Even if u hadn't dropped the friendship, u guys weren't in a place where you could completely trust her. Even if u kept her around, it would have been at an awkward distance, with a fake "we r fine" smile. So just let go and move on. U can fight with friends, but someone keeping neutral stance with your bullies, is not a true friend. An acquaintanc...... reply
I've dropped so many people over the years especially some of my closest friends. Key take is that people rarely change, if ever, if there was something to throw you off in the past, it's very likely that's it's happening in the present and will continue to happen in the future.
Also it's always a grey area with such people and you're gonna miss t...... reply
Regret? No, not at all.
But sometimes I wish that the person I hung out with every day for almost 7 years would not have gone to Israel and then joined the actual damn IDF, like genuinely wtf
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'Things' are your daily life experiences by which you get to know the world around you. Tell others about the things you did, may it be cool, sad, crazy or funny. You can also find things that you might want to do and a friend to do it with!
